How many women or men can share a story about being stalked or was in a bad relationship that turned violent?
I personally retreat from excessive “fanfare”and God gives me enough wisdom…to downplay a lot of the nonsense…when people tend to gravity if they feel there is something they can identify with or connect to… I don’t care about being aloof and setting boundaries…Everyone wont be in my personal space….and I don’t dare believe all because someone say one thing doesn’t mean they are not capable of doing harm or bringing it to you!
I don’t entertain “entourages”…the only one on the throne… is “Jesus”…
Why so many keep falling into the craziness…because power is addictive and a lot comes with it… Even if it is the wrong kind of attention…Adornment in ministry leads to lots of trouble. Trouble tend to find you even if you are not looking for it…So why do so many open the door…It’s dangerous!
Everything has a place …I see many so many eat it up but I stay away! I know the downside from my own personal experiences with too much attention and the flattery! Being a fake and flattery goes together!
Here is just one of my experiences…
My family went through a very trying and traumatic experience when my aunt dealt with a stalker…She had been terribly beaten with a hammer, continuously tortured and raped and kidnapped by someone she use to date.
He didn’t exactly fit what others might described to be as a stalker! He had been this so-called upstanding pillar in the community…extremely wealthy!
My family begin to see the dark side of who he was when my aunt decided to break it off with him.He was well to do and very much married and I my aunt found out about his real life and tried to break it off!
The worst part about this…My Dad’s sister was much younger than I was…she and I look considerably alike… I had to be informed because of the impending danger and it was my family secret…
This man tormented my family for a long time…it would stop for a short period of time before something “triggered” him off again…
As he anticipated his last move…and I believe he was going to kill her!
He knocked out windows in my grandparents home… and even setting fire to their house. Her stalker wanted wanted my “aunt” to marry him and yes he was already married…
When he set his plan in motion…My aunt was missing and other Chicago Law- Enforcement agencies had to get involved… He held her in a cargo van…raped her repeatedly…and would hit in the face and head when she wouldn’t answer something the way she wanted!
How my aunt survived those “blows” to her head and face with that hammer and the torment…amazed even the Chicago Police that she survived such a heinous attack!
It was God.. and we know it that she escaped!
The real ending to my family tragedy didn’t stop after he was arrested…It wasn’t long before my aunt died before reaching her late twenties she had taken very ill.. and given birth to her only son and he wasn’t a year old before she passed…
Oddly to this day. her son looks too much like me …Who is being was raised by my uncle!
There are more than red flags…when someone’s behavior is excessive and over the top…
A recent University of Chicago student was murdered at her job it brought back those memories.
We know when someone’s behavior is going left…being stalked or knowing someone who is doing it. To know that a person has “snapped” is almost frightening in itself!
And when people don’t put a stop before it goes too far so much is lost including lives. Many time people ignore that gut feeling or that God button that lets you know something is off…
I know from my own share of over attentive followers …to keep my distance. In their minds they fantasize and work up things in their mind even to feeling like they are the victim. Don’t hesitate to let people know who makes you uncomfortable.
I am so vocal about what my experiences have been. I believe one of the worst thing people can do and put many lives in jeopardy ignoring someone with serious mental health issues. When someone has one precursor…you can’t predict what might set him or her off!
I discern many times when someone is a little to the left…I am not afraid of dismissing myself from such individuals… Mental health issues don’t magically disappear they must be addressed! People must stop engaging risky behavior in believing they are going to make boogey man go away!
Know the signs…don’t ignore when a relationship is abusive even he or she starts out charming…Ted Bundy lured his victims with charm!
Don’t be afraid to tell anyone including law enforcement about behavior that is kicking into overdrive! Don’t ignore the signs of bad relationship that is turning into stalking because it might be proven fatal!