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I can remember when my niece was born. A gorgeous bald head and her beautiful white skin. Her mom had complications during her entire pregnancy so my niece arrive 3 months early. She was definitely a miracle!
THE BEAUTY… She is now a honor student, a champion swimmer, a beautiful girl with lots of long beautiful curly hair… During her struggle it seemed like my niece was going to have other complication with her lungs… No one knew of the finish product because of all the hell my niece went through to get here. I knew my niece had won this part of the battle but I knew that the war had just begun.
Dealing with the perfected hatred!
THE BEAST…One day during one of my mother’s mom aka “grandmother from hell” who was obviously had issues with race. She told me to my face… “HOW UGLY MY NIECE WAS”… I absolutely lost it. My brother worshiped the ground she walked on. I took her at face value . She was not a nice person.
I couldn’t tell my brother what she said because it was too painful to repeat. I recall another incident …
A friend of my grandmother who has never seen the one of the oldest grandchildren, asked who was the beautiful lady that was with her at her sisters funeral> My cousin then complimented and chimed on how gorgeous I was all in front of a family crowd. My grandmother very venomously replied… Why do you think she is so beautiful … she is ugly!
God’s truth. She called me “ugly” and my Aunt lost it. My other (Dad’s mom) Grandmother was there and she lost it as well and she left. She knew that the atmosphere for us wasn’t acceptable.
She told me to leave because couldn’t believe just how hateful she was towards me. It was then everyone left the room. I was embarrassed not because of her comment but because her ignorant ranting at her age.
The hate spewing from her lips and she was so supposed to be Christian. I didn’t want to believe it. I was hoping she had gotten better with age. She didn’t like “mixing of the races”. She didn’t want us there!
My niece and I have always been proven to be too light for her. As much as it hurt I had to come to grips that she was a racist. Our turbulent relationship never mended she wanted me out of her family. I had no problem staying away. I know what I endured as a child with her. She hated me and it showed!
My heart is quite sensitive for people who have endured any kind of prejudice or have dealt with racism on any level. It doesn’t matter how old you are… to hear so many hateful words or experience the hate in full swing it will bother you.
I am so very sorry, to hear anyone referring the First Lady, Michelle Obama a cast of the “Planet Of The Apes”… What has warrant anyone to continue to degrade people in public or in private?
What is more “ugly” than anything in this world are the people who use the world ugly. Ugly are their insides. Are the people who think they have a right to make derogatory or inflammatory remarks about anyone feel that they are the definition of “beauty”.
Calling someone ugly or referring to someone as being ugly is one of the most low down thing a person can spit out of their mouths. The word “ugly” was never tolerated in my upbringing and taken out of my vocabulary. We equated “ugly” with one’s behavior.
Yet, the honest truth, it is still discouraging because I continue to run into people young and old just like my grandmother who makes nasty remarks to make themselves look bigger. I am tired of the name calling… the racial slurs… I have been put down for my style of dress, my brown skin, my hair… my ministry…. the list goes on!
I have to continuously confront ignorance, and deal with back-end of people’s insecurities about who I am , whose I am… and what I look like. I think what is a real eye opener is how much hatred people are imbedding with.
Hatred is taught so are negative remarks. Racism and prejudices are learned behavior!