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A martyr is someone who volunteers death and  suffers persecution for advocating, renouncing what they believe ..such action is afforded  special institutionalize recognition…

I had  to really think about this… but let me share this “true” story…

A well-known minister… Who I kind of liked but I didn’t  care for  him. I saw first hand how he treated his wife and family.

 I knew he would be apart of my mentoring for ministry.  I thought he was definitely  an “odd duck”.  I knew his family was in trouble and he ignored signs that I visibly saw. He made excused not to man up and help her raise his children. They looked at him strange and hated  his god.  Children know when “their” father is doing it wrong!  For years he traveled alone and it made public what went on and it was not a pretty picture.

 His wife,  came from a very well-known family for centuries come a long line of people of prayer ministers. Powerful family but she ended up marrying this guy!

She… I thought, was odd but I knew something was off.  Of course, I was verbal about it but I knew everything wasn’t what it appeared to be. She was depressed and she couldn’t stand the sight of him.   I wanted it on record and it was!  I thought to myself he can’t be this “dumb”… Oh but he was.

 He traveled the world and she was left at home raising her five children.  Know wonder they hated “Jesus”. Their Father cared more about travel and couldn’t see something was terribly awry.

The classis narcissistic  preacher… He said he had to do God’s work… but God never stopped by is house… Because  back at home his daughter got into some  “serious” trouble. The first sign he needed to be at home more… He made more excuses… He didn’t now how to be a father and he was a terrible husband! 

He said the “devil came in his home”… I said … YOU INVITED HIM RIGHT ON IN! And to end this story his wife had been hooked in prescription drugs too numb the pain of a bad marriage and left to do it all on her own…She divorced him, he fell apart.  

Yet, he had quite learned the lesson… They got back together and the he is now dealing with some health issues as a result of not taking care of himself…from all the traveling and not taking care of himself.  She now is remarried with a sick husband! 

My point…Is that many  tell the lies of exhausting themselves and even suffering sickness. He had time to save he world not he has since recanting his ramblings. He was publicly embarrassed to admit it was he that  tore down his own house brick by brick with fleshly foolish decision and not the devil. Doing God’s work you don’t have to abuse your position in Christ by neglecting your first lifetime assignment call family.

 You might not ever technically retire from ministry but God has other ways of taking you to another phase of life in ministry. Many would like to believe that  they would die for what they believe in …

My question has to be this… What are you really dying for ? When you have already sacrificed the dynamics of  family and lack your covenant with God… to love,, honor and obey!

Many believe that they can do like John The Baptist yet, many can’t really handle that kind of diet… when they love food of the “gods” (little g) … but many today lack that kind of boldness and  courage.

As many would like to believe they are “PROPHETS” the process of becoming seasoned is actually pretty grueling…

The first order of the house is to protect what God has ordained you to be with and recognize that the problems that are in yours!

While being a martyr …

They first sacrifice is to die to self, 

Secondly. they go against the grain and stand for what God wants them to be, before this take place God has already know something has to die for something to live.  He conditions and prepares you!

Thirdly, has it ever or will it ever be is to build on grounds that might have to be rooted up first. That every ministry starts in your own house first. Many lie on God by being everything else to everyone but being the “Prophets” of your own homes… 

God isn’t a home wrecker and we must stop this  typical “cope out” for preachers…quoting scriptures and shouting all the religious jargon didn’t fix his marriage it was his time …

He had to man up and unfortunately, he is ill and the children are grown…His wife seem to have rebuilt herself…

And please adhere the real message…

There are  many foolish leaders  just like this…who lack the wisdom of God. Doing everything in the name of God…but it’s no so.  Have failed tremendously of being the Ambassador of  being at home.  Why people believe that they are the only ones that God called…How arrogant to believe that  you are even his first choice?

Some might believe that your absence might  make hearts grow fonder…I beg the differ.. I look at it from this perspective…Stop training your spouse to live without you…It might become a habit!