A DOUBLE DOSE OF LUTHER VAN DROSS…

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Who can forget this voice?… A Double Dose of Luther Van Dross

IT’S OKAY TO MOVE ON GOD DOESNT MIND…

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There are seasons in our lives  when we have to shift…wearing summer clothes during below freezing temperature we don’t need to be told to put clothes on. The warning sign that someone might be off is when someone continues to fantasize about how it’s okay… the situation is over…When you find people who have problems shifting in their lives and cannot discern that it’s time to do something different they always  seem to believe that they are in holding pattern but it’s all mental.  People play that “God game” as an excuse for not stepping up.  People who are afraid of change will make excuses for not moving forward. Well intentions might be in  the head but might heart the heart. 

This is the typical story today….

” A father spent all of his years working hard and building his reputation in his line of work he spent his time helping others but fail miserably at home. His wife  spent tirelessly making sure she kept the family together because her husband neglected his home.  She began to build everything alone. Their  three sons,  often desired for their father to be there in special events in their lives, things happened and after awhile the sons and wife learned to live without him…

Father’s excuse “he works a lot” and making sure he has a great legacy left for his children. In fact the reality is that he lived a separate life outside of his family.  During this  “painful” time his wife met similar individuals like herself and had to stay strong for her sons.

The sons started relying on the mother’s new friends to help her with the boys including one special friend.  Father, was missing a few beats and never came to realize that he was absentee father living in the home. 

 Father, had a day off and didn’t even know what to do with his own family and found himself in the house  staying on his cell phone and making time for more work than being a good husband and father.  More and more the invisible distances  grew large.   Father, thought he was alright but Mother had moved on. 

The sons finished college… the last one in fact graduated before Father, decides that he has to cut back on work he wasn’t feeling his best. So Father,  had to have a physical… And was told by the Doctor that his stress level was too high. In fact, the doctor advised him to pick up some hobbies and spend more time at home.   The wife on that same day, announced that she wanted out of the marriage and that she was going to marry someone else …Father didn’t understand… what happened.  Unfortunately he  was the only one  shocked… And went to the sons and told them about  his woes …they didn’t care  what was going on about Mother’s new love  that wasn’t new to them…but HIM. Mother’s new love… was the one that helped her to carry the load… He stayed in his place until she finally decided that it was time to move on…And her sons loved him dearly!!

 The sons let their father know…no only did they approve that mother moves on…and shared for all the years they watched their mother cry and struggle in-house that was never a HOME …God sent someone who was willing to wait until she moved forward TO BUILD A NEW HOUSE…WHILE FATHER DESTROYED HIS OWN HOUSE BY HIS HANDS. 

The sons, looked at their father and asked where had he been? ….  That he didn’t know how to be a husband or a father… He stood there crushed…finally she worth him spending time with her …but too late …She had someone who knew she worth spending the time with!

 We all have assignments in our lives and the most difficult challenges come when people can’t let go of something that has been dead for sometime… Anything that isn’t producing in your life and needs pruning so that it can grow.   The worst thing in the world that people do is to hold on to something that isn’t thriving or no longer thriving! Many people hold on to people, places  or things because they are familiar. The dangers of being familiar it can often slip into fantasy. The reality checks comes when everything is outgrowing you! Some people hold on because they have made it their lives and fear they wont have anything outside of what they have experienced. The great thing about life is that as long as there air… you can seize many other opportunities.

WHAT I LEARNED ON MY HAITUS…WHEN THE HOUSE IS ON FIRE, I DONT NEED A WORD FROM GOD JUST COMMON SENSE

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Having common sense doesn’t make me perfect but I am grateful to have it. People abuse grace and mercy because the lack common sense. You  don’t need a word from anyone when you have something as simple as common sense. God doesn’t goes against himself and integrity. You don’t need God to tell you what you know to do…this is new cope out method for a lot of Christians especially. Just say you don’t want to do it or too afraid to do it!  In reality many people always miss God playing games!

 I have witnessed more immature adults, married and having children without it. I have to ask and why? How some people made it without have common sense is almost scary to believe that they are not supervised. Ignorance is re-booted and never seems to be corrected!

Every now and then… I have to sit back and listen to what is being said not just in my neck of the woods but ministerial and  globally.  You have to take a break from people, places and things. During this time you have to reassess . This means often reevaluation and eliminating.  I believe that sit down periods makes you stronger because you get to see what exactly that you are more in tuned with. 

Burn out is quickly especially if the assignments are dealing with people,  stiff necks and bouts of rebellion. Standing sure and flat-footed makes you more in tune with reality. There always will be someone who will give you a hard time even when it’s not necessary. The alarming rate  seeing more  immature behavior among adults married  with no sense that they are lacking common sense. This lets me know more ignorance is regenerated, high and on steroids. People do what they want and could care less about the outcome in the future. The list is endless when I see the lack of having a moral compass whether you believe in God or not.  I don’t have to figure out where it went wrong…I just know it’s wrong.  People are more wired toward lies than acceptance of the truth. 

The power of sitting down when you want to stand up builds character in another way.  It’s different from a time-out.  A time out is  a punishment. Sitting down isn’t a punishment but it brings another level of clarity which many of us can easily lose by not shifting when life teaches us to shift. Staying in the wrong gear wreaks havoc on the spirit man and you know your life. What was once fulfilling you will find yourself dreading because of not allowing .

When you have to sit yourself down and pay attention …this has to be a time of meditating and also reflecting.  When life happens you need those moments to find out what is really important. What was once important might not be important and what wasn’t important is now  a major factor.  Life is tricky… we don’t always make the right decisions but as you get older you make wiser decisions.  I think a great injustice to one self is getting older and still making foolish decisions based on feelings.  At some point another of level of clarity should be there but it isn’t. Some erroneous  behavior should have been stopped as a child yet we have to continue to deal with it as adults. When adults are not catching the clues about how wrong it is… I believe this is when life has to bring the corrections, even then it’s not a sole guarantee.   When the house is burning I don’t need a word from God… I need common sense…