Afro American History makers, Chicago, Civil Rights Movement, Community and Social Activism, Education, Family Relationships, Love or Fascination, Prayer and intercession, Racism, relationship with God, Social Causes, Social Justice, spiritual maturity
First, life lesson, I had to learn immediately through HEARTBREAK….Is that you don’t have to share crop for anyone’s love. I play hard, I love hard… but when I am done… It’s done deal… I have to get along side people who sharpens me, not deplete me. If you spend a lot of time trying to get someone to come your way… They are not the person, you want in your life. If love is based on conditions, you are already at a loss…Once conditions are not met…so are your needs…
I see the DESPERATE “females” who almost kill themselves and others on fascination and infatuation. It becomes borderline insanity!
You know what I’m talking about… Women are out of line… eyeing a male… pursuing him with all you got…even if means deploring yourselves with the tight skirts or your pushed up girdles and girls (breasts)… When a female prey to get this kind of man . Both are drawn in on their lusts. It generally wont last long! Why? He is drawn in by your flesh and it amounts to a few minute of NOTHING.
What happens when it all goes south, including the relationship! (You will get it later)
I don’t care how visual a man is… I like him better with a mind and heart that knows what he sees not under my clothes. Generally if he is drawn this way anything that appeals to him will always be on the outside with no general commitment to you…just body parts! He is then considered to be a mark or just a plain fool
When you find yourself out of character to get love. Superficial love is just that… It’s based on what they can get including money and or power. You are setting yourself up for disappointments. Love doesn’t fall it…it grows! So many people chase people who don’t want them because something is missing in their lives. Love will draw you in with peace and not trickery!
Some introduce their spouses or significant others as better halves… I introduce myself as already Whole… not anyone’s half. I am an enhancer…to what is already in mix… Peace, Joy, Love… and etc…
This leads to my point…about being needy and feel the need to be needed.
Someone asked me recently, why don’t I ever call for help when I need it ? I had to let them see my entire expression on my face. I had to put back to them… One reason why I really don’t be bothered with a lot of people when it comes to help is because I can hear responses with actions. It’s not about my pride, it’s about your posture aligning up with your mouth.
I am not new when dealing with the fickleness of people. I don’t waste any time on people who spend their lives surrounding making themselves and their lives “gods”.
I can’t afford to be ignorant. Ignorant is costly! That is why I am such an advocate for NOT being stupid. I am not even an advocate of appearances because they can be deceptive. I am not perfect, and could care less who points out my flaws. At least I know who I am, and who called me to be. When I get carried away with “self “and how others perceived me. It doesn’t matter God bring the blessings to me I don’t have to manipulate and control others to get the job done…
I don’t have to sell what’s under my dress but give out of the abundance of my heart. That means… I don’t give you a certain portion. I try to give anyone my best and from the top and not my bottoms.
I am a joyful giver and I thank God for that kind of heart! A heart to give is something God works on, and not human beings! I don’t give to be seen, or grasp at the heart-strings of others. My love is sincere. Take it or leave it!
I don’t spend my life trying to get love from people. My lesson came when certain family members disowned me because of what I act like and what I look like… I was bending over backwards trying to get my “own” family to love me the way I was born to love them.
It unfortunately never came back! It was in this place… I had to learn the gift of saying “Goodbye”… Knowing that I don’t have to be among people, places and things to affirm me. I know my “worth”.
This opens my heart to draw the right spirits toward me.
The ultimate test is when you are surrounding yourself with things you question…
I give because I am genuinely concerned with the welfare of others. What better reward when you give from your heart. Whether you give it back to me… or not God rewards me openly.
People ask me what is my hidden success…First answer, I respond on how do you define success?… If it’s stuff and surroundings of toxicity….That’s not success “that’s a cry for help”…That means you have settled.
Next answer, True success, I said my open relationship with God which enables me to do the right things and go to sleep at night. I have God’s peace!
What are my beauty secrets and plastic surgeons? My life without toxicity, in people, places, things, spirit, soul and body…
My pulse with God, is the best make up artist in the world. Prayer doesn’t cover flaws but it allows you to mature and God helps you to handle them and correct what needs to be corrected. God doesn’t ignore human pruning and correcting.
I can’t afford to impress people…What you see is what you get. I found out you that you don’t have to recruit anyone to love and respect you… to get someone to help you. People do things for others what they may never do for you. I expect God to send the right people. I stop asking people!
Nothing hurts me more is when you expect a level of help and should receive it , but you don’t. People do what they want to do and make excuses why they have abandoned or neglected you.
I let God do the picking for how he sends my help. .I have been here too many times, not because I couldn’t ask for help. I saw the delay in response which is a clear indicator that they didn’t care! It’s in this place you ask God for a better heart not a bitter heart. Unconcerned people keep agendas… what’s in it for them is why they do what they do. Trust me what you reap is what you will sow… but seven times worse!
My prayer in wisdom, is God brings genuine people to my life for whatever reason that they are there. Ridding enemies take courage because they may actually be people who we called loved ones, friends or family. To get the genuine love from God it comes from the top with love, respect, mature and honor after you have stood for the right thing. Your past hurt in love will set you up for greater love!
The gift of goodbye is not so much of a disadvantage as one might believe… but it adds… It closes doors that were probably spiritually illegally opened to begin with…manipulation, controlling, out of pride and being superficial. Its in this place God gives you the inner strength to let go when it’s time to let it go!