THE BIGGEST “LIES” SOME MARRIED PASTORS TELL…

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Hey Pastors!!!!!

Remember I said this… You can’t seem to see what you don’t have in common because of the “lust” problem… it is then you realize what you and the other cheater have in common…Nothing! Pride comes before destruction. You  might be human being but we are held accountable on another level. As if being whorish in the pulpit is some kind of rites of passage, sexing and sleeping around is embraced!

 Many lose everything over someone’s masks!

Addressing  the Israel Houghton situation. He addressed it…He cheated end of story. I don’t care how it started or ended. Somewhere he lost his way!

I knew him to be one of the most prolific, prophetic worship leaders in this world. And I adored him… My message and warning for him was no different from anyone else. I saturated he and his family in prayer…because the temptation is out here. He isn’t the exception. That is why we have yield to God in positions of power. It comes with a lot.  

Single or married men throw it in my face on a constant. What angers me to know end is that there are some who can’t discern the climate “especially” when it comes to me.  I HATE MESSINESS… So, come correct!  Some men have tested my waters …with the baits to see if I am “hot” enough to go for it. You know what I mean. I am not desperate for attention that’s it…That attention thing if you are not careful push you away from God. Most of us “think” we can handle the power and fame…only to find ourselves running along side more devilment. I am open and private about my life but the parts I share I am sincere and honest about this life in ministry…It can be a HOT MESS!

People call me different, and that is another way of “trying” to belittle me as if what they say really matters… There are people places and things we shouldn’t surround ourselves with. We tell this to our children about their crowds by “adults” can’t seem to practice what they preach!

I might be labeled as many things but I am not a liar… and I am strange with integrity… you should try some! I have been around the very rich, highly educated, famed celebrities, and all that other stuff…It means nothing when you have no character.

It doesn’t phase me who you are and what your last name is because I have to resist garbage that comes with it and draws me in.  And remember this other liked minded people can draw you into ungodly things… People know we should watch associations but in ministry for the stupidest reasons.. they are enticed by their own lusts… they make allowance and it goes down hill!

Some know when you are down and know how to talk to you in crisis. All that good stuff! You have to keep your life in some kind of Godly order. I have seen when some Pastors entice groupies…You should see this mess in full throttle. They adore being worshiped. This a huge problem in so many churches here in America.   Why would I do something this stupid because it is God that will expose you! I don ‘t need to have all his attention which is something whores go for in church. They can spot each other …And get this some actually got the ligated gall to get angry when they are being exposed for this kind of behavior.  

It’s so easy to get caught up but gets complicated when any of us FALL.  I still love Mr. Houghton… but I have said many times in ministry. There is always that one that will catch your eye and that is the one that can draw you in.

I love who I love no one including myself is above correction and opt of doing the right things. If people never step foot in a church ideally many of them have some concept what is the wrong thing to do. If you have never heard of God, you know that when something or someone is on the level…those who know, lie about it anyway! When I was growing up naively, I actually thought the church as this safe haven.  

Lies are en-grafted in your mind that we are all common good… A LIE!   You wont find the worst of the worst …prison might be one but what about the prison that enables them to be liars?

A TRUE STORY….my grandmother made the best green beans and dinner after church was apart of certain Sundays because of another program so he liked everyone to stay and dine together.  I saw this huge spread for the Pastor’s family.  I wanted some of those green beans… and I kept asking my grandmother can I have some I was hungry! She said I have some at my house I will give you some.

Like now, I went on my protest and I started asking questions which annoyed her. I wanted to know why my overweight pastor and his daughter who was just as large as he was eating and I felt like this isn’t fair.

I was a little thing it was late and in my mind I wanted to know why he got all this special treatment with this food.  My grandmother got “embarrassed” and told me to go sit down and I will bring you something …Well, I edged toward the  Pastor’s table to sit down to eat anyway…

My grandmother couldn’t believe what I had done…I sat down and started to eat. Oh yeah, I got those green beans…

My Pastor adored me and he  didn’t mind me sitting with him. But you should have seen the looks at the his daughter and wife as I didn’t belong. (Sidebar, they are just as hateful today )  

He embraced me… My grandmother was so annoyed that she called my mother to come and get me …nothing new here! I didn’t want to stay. I thought why are they served like “royalty” and it had been a long service I was hungry and why did I have to wait?

And my grandmother came in that evening and told my mother what I had done… My “mom” laughed… She told my grandmother respectably… Who are they that people have to wait before a Pastor sits down? Basically she was more concerned with what she looked like instead of me being hungry…  

My mother said… I had been in church forever and that I was hungry.  My grandmother had missed the point. But I didn’t. Although I did get scolded for being disobedient to my grandmother…My grandmother couldn’t handle how my mother dethroned the pastor and my mother made a comment about his cruel wife and daughter.

Here’s my point… Physically we get hungry but we all seem to forget that the spirit man in all of us suffer when there is inadequacy in our way of being fed. Today people are just putting on fronts too busy getting  “brownie points” instead of tapping into the true hunger of people. Too many married leaders are doing all this “traveling”  social-climbing … and I don’t think this is a blind spot. I believe some of them have been allowed to be jerks! It comes down to what might be more important to them. How can they save and bring awareness to God’s people with honesty missing in a lot of them…and their houses are JACKED UP?   

When I came to some serious realization what goes on in ministry I am blown away at what doesn’t go on! So many surround themselves with “yes” people who enable such behavior which God hates!   All men of God are not whores… but we have those that are. As if being a philanderer is apart of God’s services.

Saying a  man can’t be faithful to his wife even if he or she is in ministry is an insult but the realities some are bedding down everywhere they can get it. I think I am almost at a point where this is trying to be made true. Why God sends one man all over the world is another lie… That is their way of playing and never going home.

Think about this? Why would you have to tell any minister to go home? In fact when he or she becomes married that is his first level of ministry.

Too many whores in ministry has made God a home wrecker. The truth is so many of them “capitalize” and make themselves bigger than God.  You don’t need God to tell you that if you neglect your spouse you wont stay married long…IF you are married one is miserable because keeping the family together is now a “single family home”. … Third, God has given him or her a missionl thal requieres him or her to be less responsible at  home to save the dying the world. All of this is a  LOAD OF CRAP!… The truth is …this is play time and seem bigger than life time. And someone knows the dirt in the inner circle that will usually tell another version of the story! Is it that hard to believe why many can’t stay faithful. God didn’t give any us of free pass to roam the streets of Chicago or Rome…  

For years this has been a way to stay single and not be committed in a marriage. God respects and honor family he dishonors those who lie on him to stay away from home. Church is still a business… Hours for me will stay the same unless a special project. I am not a social worker or Captain save a whore! This is ridiculous all this running around the world has nothing to do with God. God has so many people and will only launch you…A LIE… Think about this… ladies and gentlemen… Don’t believe in all that God told me junk… God had great men like the Apostle Paul and had to knock him off of his _____.

To let him know what his mission was for  HIM.  I know that all of this staying late with the opposite sex sets affairs in motion. Some like staying late because something is what they like to see. Lets stop making excuses why we mess up. I know if someone wants to work with me on project late at night… What do you think that he wants? Surely not my Godly time! We have to watch the set ups of the enemy.  

I HAVE CHOSEN TO STAY LOW PROFILE… EVEN IN GOING TO HIGHER ARENAS…  I am “terrified” of getting caught up in things I have no business and I have fought to hard to get this far in God. I have seen it up close and personal the price of FAME in ministry alone. The higher you go and stay together…the greater the attacks and the temptation. I, can’t get knocked down if I am on my knees. Prayer helps to keep me in check… I know the dangers of falling into something I can regret. Call me old fashioned…I know when its time to go home…and accept all these distractions that look like ministry but are no more than disguises! 

 

WHY SO MANY CHRISTIANS ARE DIVORCING?

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Marriages and the family is under the most brutal  “spiritual and attacks”. Too many misconstrue what marriage is all about to warm fuzzy feelings.   Marriage is a self less act. Some people stay in loveless marriages because there was no  love to fall out of that had never been grown into. Love and respect for each other increases with experiences. You can’t marry a child-like mentality and expect a mature adult. All because people are older doesn’t necessarily mean they are marriage material or better yet, mature enough to marry!

How come everyone  else will sense a divorce is coming? People know when its falling apart but so many ignore the red flags until one is presented with a divorce papers. 

Marriage isn’t a job or a chore but a life chance, change and covenant.  Lies wont hold any marriage but will tear it apart.  Marriage is to compliment each other. Sometimes one spouse can see what the other can’t…It’s called protection!  Too many have forgotten how to protect their family and their marriage.  The first responders for bad marriages shouldn’t be your messy friends! Truly godliness is revealed when you are in a commitment to become one.

Things can bring threats to any marriage… If there is no time in…there will be no time put out.  And what is put in will finally come out.

More complimentary toward the opposite sex than your  spouse, dual lives, offenses, things that have opened a  wound and you ignored, more time working with others than building your own  family, affairs, displaced values, pornography, lust of any kind, and  the list is endless…why Christians  may end up in divorce! 

People will often repeat what they saw their parents do. And I have to say…If it didn’t measure up with God then your parents had it wrong.  Too many will cover up their mistakes instead of exposing and implemented the correct value on people and marriage.  Marriage isn’t about controlling, or manipulating your spouse. True love will value not depreciate.  Yes, there are some people who shouldn’t even entertain the idea of being married.

If your parents cheated on each other,it didn’t make the marriage healthy, it breeds  more dysfunction.  Staying with someone you don’t like is  like a death sentence. Being someone who you know has your best interest and will love you unconditionally will build stronger marriages.  Marry cruel people wont make you that much loving. You will despise them later after life sets in.

It was shared with me and I share it with my readers. “Marriage is for mature adults”. Too much time shopping for the dresses than to invest in the marriage. Marriage is a covenant made by God. Some people take this lightly! When a man finds a wife he finds a good thing and obtain “favor” with the Lord.   Many woman ride out and quote this verse but many have no idea what this means. 

If Christian women really understand this…then what are they looking for? Yet, so many post themselves up to looked at or eyeing for attention, is the first sign, you have no idea what God intended for marriage to be. 

Many women “bomb” out of desperation to take anything that is giving them that attention.  I think one of the most insulting for me…is the fact that so many women have reduced themselves in order to be picked like the new modern-day slave trade.  The lack of female value has depreciated. Sex sells but it wont hold a marriage together. So much has been emphasize when you decide to take that final step …being committed for life to death.  What you see isn’t always what you are going to get… and sometimes  what is often displayed is what you will have to contend with.  People would laugh at me because I refuse to start anything as this  show pony. I put my foot forward and it’s not always my best, as one might think.   I can’t be no more than who I am. See my imperfections, get over it now so there wont be any surprises.   Lies have a way of breaking trust little by little.  Putting on all the frills isn’t going to even hold any  relations of any kind or a marriage together.  I just can’t start with things I know I can’t finish. Too many look for others to rescue them when first they have to be honest with themselves.

When you marry someone you can both be Christians and still unequally yoked. So many factors involved. I believe in counseling before marriage for some but not all especially when so many issues might be pertinent. Marriage is one of those things that has to be selfless. Many marriages are not working not because of what people think it is… Simply because of  too much “self centeredness” . The your way or the highway mentality. If it is to survive… being thoughtful might be the very thing that will stop divorce proceedings.

I hear it all the time…the one side love of affair with self. Not projecting how decisions will affect them as one or will this bring offense to the marriage. Doing it…will effect the marriage in what way? People forget that they are married, in fact they still act as if he or she is still single. 

People that are immature really needs to buy a  stuff dog and stay with that. When you are too self-absorbed there is very little room in you life to consider anything else and with the ownership of a pet  it will show you just how much you will invest in being someone with two legs. Evaluate that first.

Secondly, when I hear people  are getting marriage advice from someone who is just as selfish as there are… I ask did you consult God about him or her? Or did you lend too much of your business with the wrong people.  Did you listen to your spouse or degrade them by listening more to others?

 I  don’t trust people, they can give ill advice assisting you to divorce while they stay married to whatever they are in.  Honestly,when you have no idea about marriage God will direct you… the best information if often is between you and the person you are about to marry. Talk and be more prepared to be a better listener.

There are  no books that can actually be written on life and marriage… too many variable can often change one situation.  Communication is a two-way street.  To avoid divorce carefully consider when it’s the last approach.  I have seen the smallest adjustments can revive strength in a marriage. It’s not often money it’s investing in time. If you don’t have the time, to be quite honest you wont be married!

If you honestly loved each other, it wont go away by getting a new replacement without some level of time between you and the past wounds. Divorce can leave a deep wound. So, many jump in another marriage not evaluating why the last one failed. Abuses and infidelity can be grounds for divorcement, which I concur. Get out of you are going to change the person, it is who you are marrying. 

If a man or woman is gay, you are not to going to marry them into being heterosexual.  I warn people, if a person is selfish then he or she will be that much selfish later. If a person disrespect you before, it will happen later. A whore will be a whore. Bedding them down wont keep these spirits under control. 

I have heard all the foolish things men and women say. You can look but don’t touch.  That’s not what God has to say.  Its disrespectful married or otherwise. There is looking, and then there intent.  Too many  have  been trained to lusty and perverted especially in church. Open affairs are not challenged because of too many weak leaders. 

Some church has honestly lack luster in building character today. Being too familiar with leaders have murdered what God called order. That is why so many do what they want in the open …the lack of respect for God and the god that one’s leaders say he or she serves. Uncomfortable things need to be addressed God will hold us accountable. God doesn’t care about what we feel to do but what we fail to do when you say God called you.

I have actually  seen it and heard men and women say…they have a side piece when the spouse acts up.  Wow! God goes out the window. Too many leaders are murdered for dipping off. It’s more a common place. When divorced are introduced people can often snap!

 If the person has  issues with eye control and lust… don’t even bother to marry them.  You don’t divorce for silly things. If you married on conditions then you are already at a loss. Avoid the divorce by being sensible marry proper and without the fleshy agenda. Keeping it real means you don’t lie and be dishonest. 

A relationship works when there is full cooperation with both parties.  Meaning we don’t opt on singleness when it comes to what should be equally done…like parenting.  Ministers are losing spouses by the dozens due to that lack of understanding about the  God they think they are serving. If God blessed you with a spouse you better go and seek him about when it goes wrong. If emotions are running high, don’t  make foolish mistakes based on ego or  pride. In your heart you know when you have messed up, don’t make excuses make it right! 

Traveling all over the road while one spouse does all the work… it wont work! There is no  family balance which will lead to resentment about your lack of commitment! You will not only have a divorce coming but a bitter household.  This is a cope out not being at home or while one continues his or her self fulfillment instead of marital responsibilities. You will not be married that long.  Divorce always seem to be the shock to the one that committed all the offensive. Why?  It’s call SELFISHNESS…

People God hates divorce… but , God will give the grounds when you need one!