MY NAME “AIN’T” BARBIE…THE CONFLICTING POOR SELF IMAGES OF WOMEN

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I saw the new images of Barbie…Is it that serious that we have so show people what they should look like and what body shape? I saw Barbie and she has never represented my body type until somewhat now.  As much as they want to change body types… I think we need to change attitudes first!

I said … according to whom? Where are the short dolls with big girls? (LOL)

The reality is as much as we like to say we in this country are more open..we aren’t!  Men don’t have to degrade women they do it to themselves. Think about it… Where are the Ken makeovers?  Some women go out their way to be noticed. This is something I can’t seem to grasp. The most important person that should matter is walking in their own skin. People say  I have a nonchalant and aloof demeanor which is true. I don’t care if someone likes the way I look… When you start altering your appearance for attention you already missed it.  Self acceptance is the beginning of knowing self work.

Do you see men doing all these things that a woman does? Women today are posted up half naked… or what they call sexy pictures of themselves.  Women are most into what attracts than what’s healthy for them spirit, mind and body. And I mean from every perspective.

How can you have a healthy view of who you are without the power of knowing self-worth?  I don’t need any of today’s role models because they whole no true sustenance. Even with women I  use to respect are trying to fit in by making themselves more appealing to the world than just learning to be themselves. Women my age baring it all… to say I am still beautiful.

Well,  I don’ t have pose naked or do anything provocative to feel vibrant… A prayer life can change that along with a good mental and physical exercise.  People want to place you in a certain categories.   People can’ accept that I don’t look my age…because of all the work I had one… They are half right…All the work I have done is called investing in myself.  Meaning I know my age… I don’t try to exceed beyond my physical limits all the time.  I  work on me daily… That takes more than a cosmetic surgeon… that change comes from within.  I am not a picture taker…never have been! 

.Too many people spend too much time investing in someone who tells you what you should look like. If it weren’t so why do we have they so-called professional style experts that seems to me have poor taste in dressing the average female. I look at what they look like and I ask how can they help me? It’s what is appealing to me that will work all they can do is give imput. They don’t know me. 

Some women haven’t been taught the beauty of real self-esteem. Every style isn’t complimentary in many factors and most women have no clue how to stay in their element.  I learn that from just watching what makes me feel good about me. There are hits and misses but then  you have to find your groove. I prefer not to look like a clown! There are things that are not flattering to my body shape. I have to do what is complimentary to not only my body shape but my attitude.  

I share that there are garments women should wear under certain clothing that make your clothes fit better but I am middle-aged and I can’t handle all that extra clothing and I get  hot quickly. That is one reason I stay in some kind of physical shape. When it comes down to it… Knowing who you are and making that difference because you want it , and not what others want from you.  Many women hate on each other based on superficial stuff!  I don’t care how many boob jobs…and how many butt implants… There will be something that someone who will criticize based on a low self value of who they are so, they must annihilate another female out of jealousy. Many might add I don’t post a lot of pictures of myself… she must be quite ugly. I say ” beauty is the one who has to adore me” . I save my pictures for my personal photo album.

I think we also have to thank these dumb dating shows that exploit human beings. They are competing for a total stranger to whisk them away in questionable love.  . We see all these single adults…I guess?  It’s another way of soliciting but trying to win love on a television show that is borderline…

Stupid as this sounds women at my age are just as “catty” as they were teenagers. Learn to be yourself and value yourself. Honestly, no matter what you do it will be something else someone will criticize. That is why being who you are takes what you know that counts. A Barbie doll can’t define who I am what I consider as being healthy. Although, I advocate to take a better approach about life and how you see yourself. I can’t dissect my body based on what the world call beauty. If the heart and mind doesn’t match your perfect body type… I know already you are at a loss!

IT’S NOT JUST THE DEVIL, IT’S YOUR BAD DECISIONS …

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GALATIANS 5:7  YOU WERE RUNNING THE RACE BEAUTIFULLY WHO CUT IN ON YOU AND STOPPED  YOU SO THAT YOU WOULDN’T OBEY THE TRUTH.

My mother’s mom, who recently died… and I thought that I would be relieved but I was sad. I wasn’t sad because we had this great relationship but I was sad about all the hell she brought to my  life and so many others. She wasn’t a good person. She in fact, had made it her mission to make sure I suffered on her watch. 

I didn’t like her growing up because I was the only grandchild that she never acknowledged…she hated me! There was no fall out it was sheer jealousy and the color of my skin.  She was open about her disdain of my race. She wanted my mother to get rid of me. The sick part she wanted my mother to hate me as well and not mother me.

She was another one who called themselves a Christian.   She would  lie on me, always trying to set me up some kind of way, call me ugly, or try very hard to hurt me and most of the time she did.

I had gotten to a point in my life that I tried to make it right by being the better person. I would do for her and take care of her, but she ridiculed me …matter of fact she hated me that much more.  God honored me when I stepped up… Although my family cut me off, they could never see God best in their lives. After no attempts to make it right…they were cut off by God.

And  God has opened the door for me to experience something so much greater… a heart that loves!

My grandmother was the typical  church actress ….at church she  appeared to be so super spiritual the  saint   but at home, she was a witch.  She fooled some people but not all of them!!!

She decided that I would no longer be apart of  their family and I was excluded. Her lies, destroyed certain parts of me.  I would come around and you know that you were on the out, no one would even talk to me but at me. I was no longer accepted…

People that we love are often the one’s that hurt us the most. In this lesson I learn the value of who I was…and there  is always someone trying to break your spirit.  It was easy to stay away from her but what about those who pretend to love you and their actions are just as hurtful when you stay?  How can anyone stick around people who try you with undercurrents?

 They hate to see you succeed, they hate to see you full of joy. They are their happiest when they control the climates even if it is negative.

All of us have had people or things  in our lives that will  try to degrade you or depreciate the value in you based on immaturity, of jealousy or some other negative behavior.

What is so dangerous when you can’t recognize the sabotage. Or the fact that you might be the one that is on a mission of self-destruction by allowing this ugliness to be apart of your life and who you are!  How are you helping to reach your destiny and your goals bringing all the factors that might hinder future successes?

Some people, places and things has to be eliminated in order for you  to see God’s best. Many fear the change and the unknown so the die where they are…Physically, emotionally, economically, and even spiritually. The worst death is spiritual!

My mother’s mom… would actually go around in the church  to certain women especially if they were woman she didn’t like or jealous of… pinch their waistlines.  If she grabbed more than an inch…you were told to go on  diet. Oh my God, she did this to all of us. When I  went through some challenges and I gained a lot of weight, she sat and ridiculed me in front of anyone.   Then when I realize all the time she called me “fat” …a size 7…I wasn’t fat at all..

When I went to look at some old photos of myself … I realize just how small I really was.  I then started live up to what she had spoken out of her mouth. 

When we surround ourselves with people just to say we have someone around and all they do is criticize, and hinder progress  we live at their “expectations” and not God’s. We have to be honest with ourselves and an evaluate things in our lives what we “think” are healthy but are hindrances.  And we have  and assess the damage of the people we may hurt, maimed or abused   protected the bad people and situations  instead of the good.

You have to be a courageous to confront your issues, and make it right. God forgives us if we have true repentance and Godly sorrow. God will repair what me missed. This take more than words bur actions!

People who we allow to be in our lives can be most jealous.  Ask yourself are they really happy for you…or hinder you from being happy? The answer is ALWAYS  clear but can you handle that this part needs to go.

People like  hang around like circling vultures to see you fail by sabotaging your life and often it’s allowed. So many times people enable those who are there to purposely destroy their lives. They have this  co-dependency on each other. We will be miserable together but want the things of God. It will never work that way.  Knowing when the let go is so difficult for them even if they know the person doesn’t like them anyway.

The danger is that when people get in your head you start to believe what they fed you.  You live up to what is expected by them instead of God. Many miss “destiny” because they hold on to dead things when seasons have nor only changed but pass them by.

This means you are not rising above them but you stay beneath them.

I am careful of who feeds me, what I embrace as a relationship and what I interpret that’s joy when it’s misery…

Some people can’t handle where God is taken you, so they plot and carefully  help you mess it up so, you wont get there. That’s not the just  devil that’s bad decisions. It can be even family that pours salt on your tail.. Never  have I seen people so attached to others that bring out the worst in them. They can’t see it because they have areas that needs to grow. That same foolishness is  carried over…allowing others to get in your head and then it springs from the heart. God gives us his best but many will settle for less because it doesn’t require anything or you are too afraid to go after it.  There are the blood suckers who will make sure you never arrive in your heart you know it’s time to move on… but fear keeps you crippled so you stay in misery while God’s best is never captured. You have to learn when someone “loves you” or someone is using you. Will it make a difference especially when you refuse to recognize that they don’t like you?

Being in a familiar place isn’t growth, it is a safety blanket that renders fantasies instead of a joyful future.  Misery loves company,…and too many entertain those who never required more, so their  pity party grows larger and your destiny just grows dimmer! 

PLEASE DON’T INTRODUCE ANYMORE GARBAGE TO OUR CHILDREN…YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE A CHRISTIAN TO BE DISGUSTED WITH THIS KIND OF FOOLISHNESS

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Are you like me when it comes to the “filthiness” of just how low one can go?

Is it not amazing we almost have to kick doors down to pay for good education and have some level of respect left in this country. But pornography will be in fact the next”public” thing that they will say it’s okay to do.

As if we don’t have enough lusty perverts already!

But when people exploit themselves whether they have the body or not… I often wonder what in the world will you tell your children regarding the nonsense? Children are actually showing body parts on their phone and Internet…  What’s happening to our women?  

Why would any female especially  overweight women wear tight clothing? I don’t need to see anyone’s hail damage…Wear the right size clothing! Being sexy isn’t degrading yourselves! Lord I thought I would burst into tears when I see so many women who make this harder for us who try to carry ourselves with some sense of decency! Cat calling or not!

Pornography has subtle way of creeping into our world whether we like it or not. I have yet to see a man strip down to his bare nothings… I am really trying to understand why the mind-set of some of the females of the 21st Century… Some think cooking is the new microwave setting…Can’t sew a button on a sweater… barely understand raising children because they weren’t hardly raised themselves…

When the last time have you seen a gorgeous woman endorsing getting a great education or how about a library card?  I have seen some of the older women you wanted to respect posing in their underwear… Lets keep this all the way 100%… It’s all an illusion.  

You are not 60 years old with great full breasts… it’s call a good bra or you have had some kind of breast enhancements! Good genetics can help you but for real… Natural beauty in this country is shunned!  

Yes, I am for looking your best and feeling your best… But being made a fool out of … will cost us billions!

They are selling America on  pornography and plastic surgery,the marshmallow puffed faces and lips as if you went to rounds with Tommy Hearns.  Lets settle this once and for all …Te aging process will take things down a notch especially going south. Thank God for all the tools who supports keeping it north!

.The illusionist will present another side with loads of cost.  This will have to continue to maintain only the “image”…

 I personally, thought that getting  all this work done is to look natural not  the appearance that you have been a embalmed.

Get it!  When you are made to look half dead… how sex is it?   

Lord have mercy … underneath the facades are very low self-worth !  I would think that any husband would be a little angry that world see what should be kept private… Whether you have a great Brazilian wax… on reduced fine lines…What it in the world has the world come to. 

You’re right… I don’t watch neither do I purchase…God knows I don’t have to jealous of anyone… especially when I know who I am. All women are not looking like fake made up nothing in the body and the mind.

  I just might have the body to pull the stunt off as well…

“BUT I RATHER BE A LADY THAN A TRAMP…I BELIEVE THAT ROLE MODELS POSSESS SOME BASIC COMMONS SENSE AND A LIBRARY CARD”   IT DOESN’T SAY A LOT ABOUT YOU WHEN YOU LAID ON YOUR BACK OR BENT OVER FOR THE WORLD TO SEE”…

Some stuff is just  garbage and never should have been made public… NO one is degrading themselves more than some of the females. Parading around for a man or woman who ever one prefers now days is just disgusting. Do we have to wonder why our girls eat crackers and cucumbers and weight 65 lbs and they are 5’4…

It’s so ridiculous!  If this is about getting a man or trade to swap you out or prostitute you… Internet porn is definitely the way to go!…

I would have to ask who wife’s down these kind of individuals?  When physically wealthy women would  be vying  for something greater than  positions in the nudity instead of advocating class… it’s nothing but trash! Making money off of being an exhibitionist.  What physical fitness does it takes to get everything sucked out of you… Hard work and endurance isn’t what they are selling!  It’s make up to ump degree!  

 I have no idea how much of reality are people really out of touch.  What man marries any female and is okay that she has prostituted herself out …bur a PIMP? Why are we really looking for a role model unless he or she is coming out of your house?  Another question… What kind of role model can one be gyrating … mimicking sex acts… and sliding down poles? Honestly, this serves what purpose?  I have to ask does this see who is going to get the better freak?

And what impression will she give our daughters?  Whether you are making money or not.  It’s a cry for help!  

Lets go a little bit further… many of them have no talent or can’t really sing! Adult entertainment! 

If I had small children, especially girls… I honestly wouldn’t know what to do besides keep them away from some of the garbage on television and in the media as much as I can.

When we as mature adults come into agreement with the filth that is coming out of this country… not many seems to have any problem with it.  I am often called too straight forward… but personally, I think Americans has  dumb down too so much garbage and do you have wonder why many of our young have the moral value of rocks!

I have to ask on my behalf…Please don’t introduce any more garbage to our children..

THE TRUTH ABOUT WOMEN IN THE MODERN DAY SLAVE TRADE … THE DEPLORABLE VALUE SYSTEM

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As much as many “fellas” say they desire a “virtuous” woman. The truth is how many “real” men can  maintain her and handle her true self of strength?

Proverbial women mean something to God…and  she values herself… that is why she can’t bought or sold…  She is  PRICELESS…

I think it’s all going to hell in a hand basket… When we can no longer distinguish what is done in good taste and what is simply just garbage!  We have made people, places and things made to be gods. People lie and manipulate the stench  of what is done distasteful and label it GOD… And fools are sold!

And when boundaries are not made in any human beings life… it shows.  I give “kudos” to my mother and all the wonderful people God placed in my life to make sure I had some sense of self-worth and no my value! 

I think what is getting to be more and more disturbing … Is the lack of respect for one self and the respect for others.  

Opportunists…like the Slave Trade are acting on the same  foundation. There are only “SLIGHT” differences other than that… It’s all about SELF PROMOTING!

I want to make  some  valuable points to women… about when someone who has the “female slave mentality”!  This mentality still exist in the minds of more people than one would like to believe.

“About 12 million slaves were shipped across the Atlantic many as 20 percent died before reaching America. And upon arriving many were chosen in various fashion for the slave trade. From being the  “slave owners” personal pick  to the hard-core field hand’. 

For example female slaves were taken in taverns or in public areas and displayed  were basically the more well-developed bodies…Females were put through a string of test… It went as far as who would be the most desirable  and for some it was wanting to be chosen…

Get the picture?  This still exist today accept women do it to themselves to prove she can get a man, GET HIS MONEY… seduce him, make a fool out of him… or ALL THE ABOVE!

Don’t think they weren’t put to the test with despicable “SEXY” acts. It can go from “dancing and gyrating ” or your were simply being  bed down and sampled…

In the wake of what I know to see and believe about females THAT DO THINGS IN SO CALLED “GOOD TASTE”  YUCK!

… What really has changed today? As much as some of our so called “leaders” say they value us as women… THEY DON’T!  

Strip Clubs make billions of dollars… and cheaper versions of these clubs are existing today and it might be in your church. I have never seen so many desperate women to be  a modern day slave!  

During those times the more diseased slaves could be sold underhanded not knowing that she is ill.  Is this not the mental state of most lusty men telling himself he found himself a treasure and its nothing but TRASH? He only looks at the outside and driven by his own lust can’t see the truth!

When I see a female that degrades herself… I have some know  how on who she is and  already what she stands for…

1) She is her own worst enemy but parading herself to be worthy to be kept instead of knowing how valuable she really is…so she performs to win the house of the Master.  She believe it represent some sort of power or comfort…. That is the delusion!

2)She will never receives God’s best because she manipulates with her body and wont use her mind.  It doesn’t take much thought to be only sexually driven! All you have to do is just lie there!

3) She  is already a slave to her own flesh…Too lazy to work hard to get it…So she has to do all the tricks to get a rise out of “Massa”. It works for a little while and she will be thrown back into the field or the kitchen!

The  slave owner  never  thinks she is worth a good meal or  prime beef His mentality, after he is done that the female slave is still  used as  farm animal to breed!  You must mate with your kind in order for the slave owner to keep a certain level of income.

Also keep in mind, the slave owner never looks at the female slaves  with the heart of love just lust  and  as a way of keeping and maintaining his lifestyle!

When a female today… seeks attention by stooping to a greater level than the devil she is not be wife  up but paid like a prostitute that she is.  There is a way that woman should carry herself and that is also including in the church.

I am personally a little disgusted with the dogs and pony shows across America…What we call done in  good taste.  REALLY?

I think it’s embarrassing for me as a woman when women who has to degrade themselves self  all in the name of getting a position, popularity, or whatever private agenda that she may have…  To reduce yourself to  become a borderline exhibitionist, a one woman freak show to be chosen by a man is absurd!  

 I don’t adapt to something all done in the Name of God and use God as a front for a new job or place in someone’s bed.

We can’t leave out the lusty men that try to play it off…

Just like they old slave trade it’s always the man the claps the loudest… Whether it’s out loud or in your head.  (Think about that). His value system is just as worthless as hers! 

Great men cover their women not exploit them.  Just in case  you weren’t aware of…The more good-looking slaves may have gotten chosen but they were twice as likely to be the owner side piece… and severely beaten by his wife. (Some of you will get it later)

Some took those beatings in order not to go in the field.  You see, the slave owner kept his bed warmers smelling pretty… If he wanted to bed down what they called a “dirty field hand”… He raped her anywhere.

If you were in the house… you might be smelling good but you got your tail whipped!  Compare that today with women who “exploit” themselves” in order to get a Massa!

“More women no matter what race, creed or color… do more body altering to get chosen” .  How sad is this?  This is a mind blower for me!  

I would also make a point about the “disease” female slave … 

Many suffered with different ailments…Here are just a few  … And because all the slaves lack certain nutrients their body was easily accessible to certain illnesses.  

1) Blindness 2)  Bowed legs 3) Skin lesions 4)Diarrhea  

… Many women who are infected with the AIDS virus… also may experience like symptoms.  

Unfortunately, People are lovers of themselves! What is deemed to  be good is now bad, and what is bad is now deemed good….

I think what is it’s all time high is that more moral decay is inside the walls  of especially Christianity. Being a Christian doesn’t hold a lot of weight and that doesn’t disturb me as much as not standing up for having any values does! 

As much as many people “quote” these warm and fuzzy feeling cliché’s  I can tell you now… Half…  That many don’t  actually believe in what they  are saying  let alone live it!  

“When a female is treated like a slave is one thing but when you sell yourself short by displaying your femininity in an ungodly manner you make yourself a slave’.

Remember that ” Massa” only did the bad things to his slaves whether you were in the field or inside the house… YOU WERE STILL A SLAVE!

I don’t have to ask if you have a “female  slave mentality”!  Females  will cut your throat over a man who “ain’t” worth a carton of eggs!  If it’s about getting all this attention as if to be auctioned off.  She will go into her “circus act”… if she believes it is going to bring comfort. And yes, we have some “dumb” men that fall for the act!

Sadly, females there isn’t a whole lot to be jealous of especially when a woman doesn’t know her worth.  I can’t get caught  up in all the body altering just to  “attract” a man…

I take care of what God has  blessed me with … MIND, BODY, AND SPIRIT.  

It doesn’t take that much to realize where any female is …All I have to do is watch in-depth how you really carry yourself, what you attach yourself to, who you surround yourself with  and who you are selling your souls to?