My life lessons young were…
1)Keeping out of mess and any signs of being messy
2)Go the other way when the crowd is wrong
3) Learning to keep my mouth off of people and keeping my mouth shut from negative speech and making comments. I might know or capitulate the whole story
I know today many might believe I came from this super liberal home. Sorry, as liberated as I wanted to be … My Mother still had morals and set boundaries. She wasn’t my friend …she was my mom.
My mother didn’t let my brothers and I get away with nothing! There was no negotations just the mere words “do you understand the words that are coming out of my mouth”. The “jaw jacking” and expressing yourself was a way of telling your parents off. Honestly, what did we express and what did we know?
Yet, the craziness lives on today. How many times have you seen the “signs” and you ignored them anyway? The most valuable lessons I learned was … to know people …you have to still discover who they really are. Unfortunately our westernize society love-making anyone a hero and can’t handle when fail to live up to their fantasies. Please don’t let a “scandal” erupt and someone is saying something that the people can’t handle.
During these last few years… I was confronted about someone I loved… I didn’t go into denial because I knew the character when no one was looking. In the back of your mind and in the pit of your stomach. It bothers you because you know there is some truth to it. Not saying people won’t lie on you but when we have murky people in our lives or in our families… Anything is possible.
In my case… The truth floored me… I am open only to the people who are close to me about just how serious my situation became. It felt like an out-of-body experience or filming for a movie. But this only kick up my awareness just how wicked others can be and you can be clueless. because they have fooled people for so long.
Yet, the lies of who the person was, and what they were capable was proven to be frightening and true. I “never” went into “denial” mode because I had already experienced or witness some negative behavior.
Of course, your heart is broken and you are disappointed. Your hopes can stay high as the sky… Some people we better keep “watch”. What was even more disturbing you can’t believe just how disturbed and just how far someone will go to hurt, lie, maim, destroy, or bring harm to you.
Denial only clouds your better judgment. Yes, things still shock my physical person but never the spirit! People put on face masks and they go into acting mode… I must add they are well rehearsed in their madness especially if it’s well hidden. Often people and money hide monsters. They can be manipulative and or quite cunning. A deceiver deceives.
It’s so easy to buy into the lies than received the truth because it can be so unimaginable! We hate to believe that someone we either love or trust can have a darker side. I have seen this far too often. I know in my heart some people can capture the truth all on camera and still be in denial just how evil a person can be. Some people tend to have a selective reasoning especially if it someone they have allowed in their lives have this darker side.
I dare you to ask God to open up your eyes and to show you the truth. Sometimes the truth could be right in our faces or in the mirror!